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When we are ill, yes the natural response is to withdraw and isolate ourselves. Psychiatrists and researchers now consider this to be a very helpful adaptation that can help slow down the spread of disease etc. However this urge to withdraw in relation to depression is not helpful, in that by isolating ones-self one actually provides depression with more of what it needs. Isolation provides the perfect environment for negative rumination, which involves such negative habitual thought processes as black or white thinking, over generalising/stereo typing, expecting the worst, focusing on the negative side of everything and one’s own weaknesses and on to negative future expectations. This then leads to feelings of Hopelessness, Insecurity, Anxiety and ultimately a deeper more entrenched state of Depression and despair. Therefore having the option to meet and connect with others who understand how you feel is a very good way to counteract this unhealthy trend. Group meetings can provide the perfect environment for you to be heard, receive helpful feedback, re-establish confidence around people of all walks of life, or even meet new friends, hence satisfying our human need for significance.

Depression, Help for Suicidal Inclinations.

Hi and thanks for arriving.

Today I am not going to write much because I know what depression can do to a reader, so I have put together something you can just sit back and watch. These two videos represent just some of the knowledge I came across during my intensive search for answers that helped me so much. Therefore it is my desire to share this essential info with you and if you find it as helpful as I found it I’m sure you’ll work out how to conduct your own further investigation. would be nice to hear from you.

Hope it helps

Thanx  Graham.

Please watch this video first in order to set yourself up for the following info Link 1

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Suffer and Learn from IT

Yes those old sayings of clouds having silver linings do actually have some form of truth to them. Silver, gold, diamonds and other VITAL elements necessary for life such as oxygen, helium and hydrogen can only be created under extreme conditions such as exist within lightning, active volcanoes, the heart of the sun or – in the case of gold – during massive explosions caused by the death and subsequent collapse of monster suns much bigger than our own, known as Supernovas. This also applies to us, in that superior psychological elements such as true appreciation for simply being well and happy, are only truly and firmly established by extreme psychological adversity. Therefore, just as higher forms of life can now exist due to the dramatic creation of oxygen, helium and hydrogen, so also your new post-depressive state of mind will be capable of supporting a far superior level of awareness and wisdom, so don’t be disheartened – your sufferings are not in vain. In fact, if it wasn’t for adversity, life on earth would not exist.
Just as steel and even glass is made stronger by tempering with extreme heat, so you will be so much more resilient, self-confident, stable, durable and independent if you can summon up the courage and perseverance necessary to make it through the trials and ‘discouragements’ that inevitably lay between you now and your future learning leading success.

The sub conscious mind resembles a fertile garden

The sub conscious mind resembles a fertile garden, in which weeds will grow in abundance, if the seeds of more desirable crops are not sown therein

Quoted from the book ‘Think n Grow Rich’ written by Napoleon Hill.

  • If you had a sunny spot in the garden, which plants would you water most frequently?
  • What thoughts do you dwell on most frequently? what thoughts do you give the most life sustaining energy?
  • Just like a body builder, the more attention he gives to his muscles the bigger they grow.
  • Therefore if you do not have pretty flowers in your garden, start doing what ever is necessary to acquire them.

The Pessimism of Depression

Take any animal; even a creature with the most basic of nervous systems, and you will always find evidence of hard wired involuntary reflexes that instantly take over the mind and body when ever danger has been realised and ‘time to think’ is not an option.

In fact, even some plants possess this vital ability to instantly be prepared against harm. Interestingly, human babies are also born with many involuntary reflexes that keep them from harm, for instance, the mammalian ‘dive’ reflex is activated when cool water comes in contact with the face; when submerging the baby’s face, this automatic reflex instantly redistributes the baby’s blood flow, ensuring the ‘key’ organs such as the brain and heart, receive a constant supply of oxygen.

Depression (I believe), is linked very strongly to an ancient, primitive involuntary reflex that operates well below our conscious awareness and is a major component of what we known as the Fight or Flight Response (FFR). This response is triggered instantly from the very foundations of our mind every time we perceive a potential threat to our well-being.

Actually, further research has shown that it should really be called the Freeze, Flight, Fight, Fear Response (FFFFR) but I’ll stick with FFR for now.

For now it is important to start by understanding the following: once the FFR is initiated by the recognition of a possible threat, all brain processing power is redirected away from unnecessary processes such as being happy and enjoying pleasure etc. in order to give priority to the parts of the mind that have proved time and time again to be essential to survival. And right here is the most important thing you must take note of in relation to worry and depression: these parts of the brain that have now been ‘heightened’ by the chemical changes produced by the FFR are all heavily weighted towards PESSIMISM. The fact is- time has proven over and over again that in the event of danger, expecting the worst, using all-or-nothing reasoning, and generally thinking negatively, on the whole produces the very best outcome when time to think is not an option. If you can remember the last time you felt unsafe and worried I’m sure you will also remember how difficult it was to take even the smallest optimistic risk, this is because fear and being under threat, alters your brain’s chemistry. Therefore I believe the pessimistically, over generalised outlook commonly associated with Depression is the result of the absence of neurotransmitters triggered by feeling under threat and not being able to see a way out of ones present, highly worrying situation.

Pessimism and Depression

Imagine you are a deer feeding on grass with all your fellow deer. You suddenly hear a sharp rustle in the bushes close by. All your friends expect the worst and run like hell, thinking ‘its better to be safe than sorry’ but you are optimistic and wait a while to see if it’s not just a big bird or something equally as harmless – this has indeed been the case quite a lot lately and you have gained an advantage over your pessimistic palls by saving energy and being able to get to the best grass while they are all gone with their tails between their legs. BUT NOT THIS TIME. Oh no. It’s a big cat and it’s coming straight for you and it’s moving far faster than your optimistic mind ever expected and you’re also moving much slower than your optimistic mind gave you credit for.
Well I’m sure you can now see that after a few million years of this scenario playing out, that all the optimistic deer end up in the bellies of lions and all the pessimistic deer end up passing-on their pessimistic genes to the next generation, hence the jumpy elusive nature deer have today.
There is, however, a twist to this tale and it’s this: in the fullness of time optimism proved to be too good to lose. Optimism and all that is associated with positive thinking had to find a way and eventually, after probably a very long time, the perfect solution was found in the shape of this bundle of hard wired involuntary reflexes we now call the Fight or Flight Reflex – that now only kick in ”’involuntarily”’ whenever danger or the threat of danger is realised.
Now if you haven’t already worked it out, here is why the FFR is so relevant to us who suffer from depression: as the human brain developed over time and became more and more sophisticated (and our lives too), the line between a legitimate source of danger and a non-legitimate source of danger became more and more vague. As a result, unfortunately for some of us with strong imaginations, even worrying about something too much can trick our deep subconscious into believing there is, in reality, a very real threat which consequently mechanically starts the FFR cogs rolling, filtering out our good, positive thoughts and feelings and heightening our negative, pessimistic ‘fight or flight’ mentality.
And there is still more: unlike a deer being chased by a lion or some one stumbling upon a poisonous snake or spider, our modern day worries or horrors are not all over in a few minuets or seconds. Consequently because we now spend so much more time in a state of anxious suspense, dread or frustration etc., our worrying creates more pessimism and more pessimism induces even more worry, resulting in more and more pessimism convincing you even more that your situation is totally hopeless and then you’re… TRAPPED.
The simple fact is, your subconscious mind is incapable of distinguishing between ANXIETY or FEAR induced by a sabre toothed tiger or the very real ANXIETY or FEAR induced by an unpaid bill,being intimidated by a parent or work colleague,loneliness etc. Worrying has however been proved to be a very good thing, in that it helps us find solutions to our problems by forcing us to focus intensely on our problem and it certainly helped me to persist with my need to find my way out of depression.
However if your worrying seems to have no basis and you can’t understand whey you consistently feel anxious and unsettled, then it would be helpful to continue reading.